Let’s Get Into It: Friend Groups: Love Them or Leave Them?
The conversations that make you feel less alone in this friendship thingToday’s QuestionAre you pro- friend group or against friend group… or somewhere in between?
What’s your ideal - a tight group of friends who all know each other, or separate friendships that don’t overlap?Have you had good or bad experiences with friend group dynamics in the past?
Here’s What I’ve NoticedI get a lot of people who tell me they want a friend group, but don’t want the drama. I have people who tell me they’re in a friend group, but kinda wish they could get out. I have people who have a friend group they love. And I have people who just have a couple main people, but they aren’t really a “group.” Most people seem to wish they had something different from what they currently have. But a few are totally content. Personally? I love what I have. I wouldn’t have it any other way - which is one big friend group (when we’re being silly and weird we call it “The Fram”), but I also have some smaller offshoots and honestly subgroups within that main group. It’s a complicated mess to most people, but I love it. But here’s the thing - I think that works for me because my family doesn’t take up much of my Wheel of Connection, so I’m supplementing with friends. I have way more friend dynamics than some people might need or want (more about that here). Someone else might have more family connections and fewer friends, or an even mix. Everyone’s Wheel of Connection is different! And that’s the beautiful thing. There’s no right or wrong version. There’s only what you have now and whether you want to invest energy to change it - add more connections, subtract some, or just appreciate what’s already there. Take This Further
Next Round TableNext, we’re tackling something many of us overthink: “What’s one small thing a friend did recently that made you feel really seen or cared for?” Bring your examples! We’ve got a list to crowdsource. 💬 Let’s Get Into It!Are you pro- friend group or against friend group… or somewhere in between?
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